The VANISHING FATHER

I will never forget this incident that happened after I separated from my former husband : My daugher had bought my ex husband a birthday present and wrapped it herself. My ex said that he would show up to church and sit together with my daughter. She sat there holding the present for the whole service and he never showed up . He still has about the same lack of caring 7 years later. All I can tell my daughter is " There are some people who are like cabbages. They smell the same no matter how you cook them." "Your dad is a cabbage. FATHERS PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE BE THERE FOR YOUR KIDS. What you DON'T do could make for many years of heartache and counseling for your kids . You are responsible for the self-esteem of your kids. Don't withold your love from them because you want to 'get back ' at your ex. It's not about you.It's not about your ex. It's about that precious kid who just wants a dad. soulight

My own father walked out of my life when I was 9 I remember that day like it was yesterday. I was waiting by the window with my bags packed and he never showed. At age 13 he stopped paying child support, then by age 14 when we could get him into court he wanted to be daddy all over again. I stood up and said forget you ever had a daughter and that was that. When I turned 22 I decided maybe I should make peace with him and I did which lasted 2 years. I gave it a good effort only to feel unwelcome. I have now once again cut off all ties with him, you can't have something that was never really there. Dads need to realize when they walk out they can never make up for lost time. They can never mend the broken hearts they leave behind.